DON'T BELIEVE IT

Recently and more in the past, I've read or heard that there are 5 stages of grief.

This is not true.

The actual five stages they are talking about are the stages one goes thru when confronted with a terminal illness or other catastrophic encounter.

Here they are:

psychcentral.com

The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.

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Grief is individual.

Grief is unknown.

Grief does not follow the same path for every one.

Grief depends on the relationship while living.

Grief is not a list of stages.

Grief may last your entire life.

Grief changes and then changes back.

Don't expect grief to be something you can overcome.  It is a life long track.  There is hope.  

Heaven is real.

Heaven is eternal.

Heaven is thru Jesus Christ.

Seek and ye shall find.

Grief will end when Heaven appears.

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SUCCESS

The glare is covering the word

try

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DUSTY RHODES

This famous old time wrestler is who our little dog is named after plus a dust mop.

Do you see a resemblance?

Dusty Roads, the dog, on the left and the dust mop on the right.

Hard to tell a difference.

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HE took it ALL

This video thrills me every time I watch it....over and over and over.

It's that time of year again, to think about, all of it.

We deserve every step of the process....arrest, beating, ALL of it.

But HE took it ALL for the whole world for all of time.  

Now, I understand more the pain that his mother, Mary, endured.  

Sunday is coming.....copied from youtube.

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THINKING

Several times over the years of being married to the same man for 52 almost years.  I would say....I've been thinking.  

His response.....oh no, not again.

So, here I go again.

I've been thinking.

I am trying to figure out the years of my life that I have left/remaining.

No one knows how long that will be, of course.

But the kids are grown.

One has passed away.

What now?

I had dreams when I was young.  

Now I am old and now those dreams are gone.

How does a person refocus and try to look forward as a senior citizen?

It doesn't seem as though there is much now.

My parents both died in their fifties.  I have outlived both of them.

I am a 44 year cancer survivor this year.

I am thankful to still be breathing.

So what now?

I am open to suggestions.

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WHERE YA BEEN?

Blogging is an interesting hobby.

It takes you places you may not understand.

I, with all diligence, intended to plunge in with both feet and stick to it.

But, no, didn't happen.

Our oldest child, Aaron, died on March 6, 2016.

Yes, it is almost two years ago but how can that be?

He is missed every minute of every day.

Only if you have experienced child loss, can you understand the pain.

I've been in a deep hole of depression.  

No desire to do, go, or accomplish any thing.

I'm not whining.  It's just what it is.

So, I went to my Doc.  He is sending me for a physical to see what all is up with me.

I appreciate him.

He doesn't just want to 'start throwing medicine' at me without checking me out first.

I hope it's good news.

Life is hard and anyone that says it is not.

Well they are just wrong.

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FOLLOW UP:
All the blood work and heart tests came back good and within normal ranges.  The old ticker is ticking great.....all four chambers!